Monday, January 30, 2012

Thoughts Shared Only in Private

Time for a guest post on a topic that can set people on edge ... but this is the blogosphere; so there you go.

As the front porch will know once our guest's post starts - his opinion is almost the opposite of mine in many aspects. That's OK, the MIDN below holds an opinion that many do - many good men do.

I don't agree with a lot of what he says - but I think his opinion should be put out there if for no other reason than this; leaders need to know that a lot of men in the military think this way. This doesn't make them bad, evil, or not worthy to serve. It just is - and the time to think about how to work with people like this isn't when you find it in the Fleet. Ponder now so you can lead them tomorrow.

My recommendation to this young man and others like him is to allocate more time for PT. Naval Special Warfare is one of the few places he will be able to serve in the near future without women. That and USMC infantry.

For those who think this man should suck it up or go home - I say you are wrong. We need men who think like the below - we just to make sure we find the right specialty to meet their personality type.

Midshipman, the floor is yours.

I don’t like following women. There – I said it.

The thing is, yeah, I joined the military to serve my country, and I know that she did, too. But really, I joined the military because I had to, to, you know, to prove that I’m a man. To become a man, really. I saw the pictures of the Marines in their dress blues, with their broad shoulders and severe faces. I saw them running over obstacles, firing guns, sweating, bleeding, faces contorted with effort and sweet agony. Proving themselves. And I wanted to be them. Not to serve my country, but to be a freaking badass.

How can she teach me that? She doesn’t know the first thing about being a man. I run faster than her; I do more pull-ups. True, she’s very professional (that seems to be the buzz-word these days, as if we operated in some sort of business), but she isn’t a man. I know she can do everything the same: she’s just as smart as a man, she loves her country just as much as a man, and we all know that running speed and physical strength aren’t really limiting factors for most jobs. But it’s still there. That thing that women can’t understand about being a man. Part of being a man is that wolf-pack mentality. I don’t want someone who’s merely smart and capable. I want that alpha-wolf who leads the pack through sheer physicality and masculinity. Of course ideally he would be smart, patient, just, kind, and so forth. But any leader, male or female, needs to be better than their subordinates. It’s why they’re called superiors. But if a woman is better than me, I can’t be a man. I can follow her, but I feel like my nuts have been chopped off. I feel like a cowed dog; like one of those little chihuahuas that upscale girls carry in their purse. What we forget is that those little pipsqueaks are the descendants of wolves. They were once vicious hunters that struck fear into the hearts of their prey, now reduced to dickless, domesticated freaks.

The military says I have to follow my leader, no matter what gender they are. And I will, and I’ll do my job, either way. Of course I will; I’ll keep my word to my country. But why is it so wrong for me to want someone who I can look up to? Why can’t I just follow a man, and feel like a wolf instead of a Chihuahua? Is this really just “my problem”?


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UltimaRatioRegis said...


Does your jackass mode have an "off" switch?  The Middie is young and inexperienced.  Comdemning him for not knowing everything (which you apparently do) could be considered a much more egregious offense than lacking perspective at 18 or 19. 

But I digress.

Alpha Check said...

Noone except the "Midshipman" writer suggested that respect be based on athletic ability and masculinity: "<span>I want that alpha-wolf who leads the pack through sheer physicality and masculinity."</span>

Alpha Check said...

Oh, and Q, do us all a favor and quit making assumptions about other people's experiences.  It only shows you're spewing opinions that are based on your fantasies and not on what people say.

cdrsalamander said...

This has nothing to do with USNA - but this is a MIDN from there.

TheMightyQ said...


CDR K said...

Merited, based on my experience.  Right now, he's externally driven.  If he remains so, he will -- like so many others -- blame his personal failings on others.  YMMV.  I did say that time will tell.

USNA'11 said...

This post makes me want to break out in a rendition of "I'll Make a Man Out of You" from Mulan. Really? You joined the military to become a man? Hope you don't rack dive when you get NFO. It's normally your type that we ask during plebe summer "What branch do you want to go in to?" And we get the answer "Ma'am either SEAL's or EOD or Marine Infantry Ma'am." Pretty much anything to make you look bad ass. You have no idea what you want to do, you just want people to think you're hard. And you're normally the one who can't do more than 10 push-ups. Rah shipmate. Rah. And even if you are super in shape, you're that total joe who flames on your own classmates for not keeping up or bilges them out to make yourself look better. Yeah, you're defintely the one I want to serve with, even if you can run a 4:00 mile. The way things should work if the military was not PC, would be to make up a list of everyone by last name, first inital. For Infantry, for anything. Everyone is judged the same. If you make the cut, you make the cut, regardless if you are male or female. Same standards for everything, no different times or other stupid crap like that. And don't tell me its not possible. I knew a Marine Corps female Captain who maxed the male PFT. I'm pretty sure she could end you. I'm sorry you can't handle her being better than you. But guess what? That's life.

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